Love is passionate and all-encompassing. But, eventually, if you’re lucky, it also becomes comfortable.
And people tend to fear this phase of relationships— where the ‘honeymoon’ ends and real life sets in. They think that new ‘comfort’ means luke-warm or dull.
But that couldn’t be further from the truth. Comfort shouldn’t be confused with settling or giving up on the feelings that brought you together. It is so much more.
Because, yes. Love should involve passion. But it should also involve friendship, persistence, and growth. It’s taking the time to really learn each other— the quirks, strengths and weaknesses, vulnerabilities, weird habits, and take-out orders.
It’s about learning what pushes each other’s buttons and the things that make both of you happy. It’s about being together through all of the ups and downs. It’s about finding excitement within the mundane of an every-day routine and still being able to have those life-changing moments.
It’s about holding on to the love you’ve found and nurturing it so that it is built upon a beautiful foundation of friendship.
Does that mean that your love is going to be less passionate? Depends on how you look at it. It may be calmed down from the days of not ever being able to keep your hands off of each other, or talking on the phone all night every night.
But the way you feel about each other crosses into a much deeper, life-long bond if you let it.
So, let your love become comfortable. It’ll be the best thing to happen to your relationship.
Because you’ll be able to sit in silence without worrying about filling the space. You’ll have a strong foundation of knowledge about the other person, while still continuing to grow. You’ll respect each other, adventure together, and make mistakes together.
We are constantly evolving together while we grow in the other areas of our lives as well. We are seeing each other through every unknown, which isn’t always pretty. But, that’s exactly what makes it so beautiful.
The passion will still be there, but it is a steady and nurturing warmth, not a spark that will eventually burn out.
Because that’s what happens when you love your best friend. You love them for their mind, body, and soul.